one thing i have grown to remember that love is more then just a hallmark card. it is in the moments in which we want to run and hide ....blame and contract that LOVE really really serves its purpose.
i have grown to realize that loving and SEEING are essential. not only as parents but how we love ourselves. to love and SEE the person and SEE ourselves- without expectation that the other "will be what we want them to be" is humbling- and quite frankly out of the NORM in which we have been conditioned to love.
being a parent has gifted me with this. i may have a challenge at times in accepting that i do not own my daughter, nor can i love her and WANT her to be "what i want her to be"
our children come in with their own path. they come in...knowing who they are. we give them little credit. we feel as if we are the ones to "tell them who they are" but i question that with a playful heart. are we? or are we the ones to guide, support and SEE them. SEE who they are without our own projection and expectations on what they should be?
when i am loved and seen it is a tremendous feeling . i am blessed enough to have FELT this and i am deeply grateful.
it gifted me with the understanding that love is not "hoping someone will change." or love is not "intending them to be what we want them to be"
love is seeing someone for all that they are.
there is not grey area here
our children are asking us to see them AND love them
this sets us free...gives us permission to love and SEE ourselves...without expectation, without judgment.
to simply be.
be who we are....
